Book on dating rules for women
Don’t speak to him – unless you want to be alone for the rest of your life. So basically, Miranda Kerr could ask out that nerd from accounts and he’d still dump her for daring to make the first move. Ellen and Sherrie must be getting soft with age – they actually allow you to communicate with a man you like now. Their advice is to wait between four and 24 hours before replying to his first text.
Before these, there was just the telephone, which you invariably watched until it rang. Well, I did, but I already told you I wasn't a Rules girl.
Any communication you make independently of that is an initiation of contact that would never have happened were it left up to him.
This, the authors argue, is what means women are disappointed again and again by men who are perfectly happy to accept your advances (and all the, ahem, perks they might bring), but who won't follow through with a second date or who can't commit."The Rules are about boundaries and self-esteem," says Schneider.
All told, it encouraged women to be a bit more cynical about their happily-ever- afters. When I ring them for our interview, both Fein and Schneider's phones refuse to accept my call because my number comes up as blocked.
As the gurus who invented call screening, curtailing any contact that isn't face-to-face as quickly as possible, and good old-fashioned ignoring, this strikes me as particularly apt.