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In a marriage, you're supposed to share your resources with your family. Comparing your wife to your flirt buddy isn't fair.
But you're secretly diverting away the best of what you have to offer and lavishing it on yourself. Because you think you deserve more than everyone else. Out of the three of you, your wife is the only one who does not realize there's a competition going on.
It's easy to be alluring for little snippets of time.
You may not realize it, but your wife looks every bit as enticing to other people who only see her in limited situations like the ones in which you see your flirt buddy.
Otherwise, your relationship is fundamentally unfair. Your wife looks way better (and you look way worse) than you realize.
You and your flirt buddy don't see each other nearly as often as you and your wife do--and when you and your flirt buddy see each other, it's under much more favorable conditions.
All of the sexy banter, flirty texts, and inside jokes? Not only are they steamy, they're actually stolen -- as in the time and energy that you are putting into those rightfully belong to your marriage.In other words, men tend to think women are into them when they aren't, and women tend to not notice when men are into them.In a 2000 analysis of several of these studies, University of Texas psychologists Martie G. Buss offered several explanations for this finding, including that men are raised to see more sex in their environments while women are brought up to be more modest, but psychologists still haven't quite nailed down a perfect explanation for their observations. After showing 1,041 people images of different facial expressions, Tracy found that: • Happiness was the most attractive female expression, but one of the least attractive for men.Just as a flame deprived of oxygen cannot continue to burn, your marriage cannot continue to thrive when you are denying it the basics necessary to sustain it. You may justify what you're doing by telling yourself that it has a positive effect on your home life because it boosts your mood.But what you refer to as a mood boost is actually an ego trip. Not only is the thrill long gone, sometimes you have to check your wrist just to make sure you still have a pulse.It's just boring old everyday life over at your house. If you're in a better mood, then that's better for everyone -- including your family, right?Remember when the two of you mutually decided to stop shopping around and commit to each other? But now you're secretly playing by a different set of rules.You're out there sizing up melons and squeezing the Charmin.• Pride was the most attractive male expression, but one of the least attractive for women. According to research from Webster University psychologist Monica Moore — who studied people's flirting behavior at singles bars, shopping malls, and other places where young people meet — people who smiled and made eye contact with others were more likely to be approached than those who were simply good-looking.In one study, researchers had 48 pairs of unacquainted, opposite-sex undergrads spend two minutes at each of the following tasks: 1) gazing at their partner’s eyes, 2) gazing at their partner’s hands, and 3) counting how many times their partner blinked.