Dating a virgin waiting for marriage
Once you are comfortable with your decision, you won't need me to tell you the answer to your original question, which is that, yes, you should tell him you are a virgin, but only if the topic comes up naturally. Telling a guy that you are a virgin should be no different than telling him who you voted for in the presidential elections, or whether or not you believe in god, or any other potentially divisive fact about yourself.You wouldn't feel a need to "confess" to him that you voted for Ron Paul on your first date; but you'd tell him if he asked - or if your political views came up in the course of conversation. - these are the kinds of things that you eventually need to know about each other because they reveal a person's values; but we don't immediately discuss them because a person's values aren't the only important thing about them.The fear was so severe that I used to rehearse in my mind how I would equivocate if I were ever asked about it.I was much less ashamed about being a virgin, because virginity was something I actively believed in at the time.If you were really sure of your life decisions, you wouldn't be worried about what the guys you date think of them.You'd (rightly) disqualify guys who disapproved of your virginity because their disapproval betrays their incompatibility with you. When should you tell guys you are dating that you are a virgin?You need to be comfortable with the idea of losing a guy before you can be open enough to attract him.
" I've already written a post answering this question, but I also want to discuss the best way to go about dating as a virgin.
Since having confidence in your life decisions is more easily said than done, it can help to know that most guys won't think you are weird for being a virgin; and if a guy is put off by it, it is because he wasn't that into you to begin with. How should you tell guys you are dating that you are a virgin?
In order to answer this question, we need to look more closely at what I mean by the topic "coming up naturally." This could happen fairly directly - for example, over dinner on a first date, if he is bold enough to bring up sex and the conversation takes a natural path towards sexual experience.
And I will do that by answering the next four most common questions that I receive from girls about virginity, namely: I'll address each question separately.
But first, I want to take a moment to highlight what is perhaps the important thing...